Deciding whether to end a marriage is a major legal, financial, and emotional step—so it’s essential to know if you’re truly ready.
Our brief Am I ready for a divorce quiz was developed by Couples therapist Jeremy Setters, LCSW for educational purposes only.
It does not replace personalized legal or mental-health advice, and it’s important to speak with qualified professionals before making decisions.
For legal guidance, visit Gastelum Attorneys
(you can also reach out via our contact page).
To learn more about the evidence behind this tool, see the Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI),
the Decisional Conflict Scale (DCS), and the HITS IPV screen.
Am I Ready for a Divorce?
A private, evidence-informed self-check to help you reflect on relationship health, decisional clarity, safety, and finances. This is not legal advice, therapy, or a diagnosis.
How to take this (2–4 minutes)
Timeframe: Answer based on the past 3 months.
Answering: Tap exactly one dot (1–5) for every question in each section.
If unsure: Choose the option that fits your experience most of the time.
Privacy: Nothing is sent until you submit the form at the bottom.
A) Relationship Satisfaction Answer as yourself
How to answer: Rate how true each statement feels to you. 1 = Strongly disagree, 2 = Disagree, 3 = Neither, 4 = Agree, 5 = Strongly agree.
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Higher dissatisfaction weighs toward “ready.”
B) Communication Patterns Answer about your couple dynamic
How to answer: Rate how often these behaviors happen between you two. 1 = Never, 2 = Rarely (a few times in 3 months), 3 = Sometimes (about monthly), 4 = Often (most weeks), 5 = Very often (several times a week).
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Rate how often these happen between you two.
C) Decisional Clarity About Divorce Answer as yourself
How to answer: Rate how true each statement is for you right now. 1 = Strongly disagree, 2 = Disagree, 3 = Neither, 4 = Agree, 5 = Strongly agree.
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Feeling informed, clear about values, supported, and certain.
D) Safety Screen Answer about your partner’s behavior toward you
How to answer: Rate how often these behaviors occurred in the last 3 months. 1 = Never, 2 = Rarely (once or twice), 3 = Sometimes (every few months), 4 = Often (monthly), 5 = Very often (weekly or more).
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Brief screen for intimate partner violence. If any item is high, prioritize safety planning.
If you’re in immediate danger, call your local emergency number now.
E) Finances: Money Disagreements & Communication Answer about your couple’s finances
How to answer:
• For “We argue about money,” “I feel financially distressed,” “One of us hides…”: use frequency — 1 = Never, 2 = Rarely, 3 = Sometimes, 4 = Often, 5 = Very often.
• For “We discuss money openly…,” “We make spending/budget decisions together”: use agreement — 1 = Strongly disagree … 5 = Strongly agree.
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This brief set blends a direct money-disagreements item with communication/well-being items. Higher overall strain here weighs toward “ready.”
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Am I Ready for a Divorce? — Your self-check results
This email is for educational purposes and does not constitute legal or mental-health advice. Consider speaking with a family-law attorney for personalized guidance.
Evidence & Further Reading
Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI) — Funk & Rogge (2007).
Divorce-predictive communication patterns: the “Four Horsemen” (Gottman).
Decisional Conflict Scale (DCS) — Ottawa Hospital Research Institute; O’Connor et al.
